By now you must have heard the new radio single, Lead Me, from Sanctus Real. As soon as I heard it, I felt the conviction of the lyrics. And while I know I’m not a touring lead singer, the message should speak to the heart of every husband who shares the call of ministry. Too often we can allow “ministry” to swallow us up, leaving our wives and our families with whatever is left. And in youth ministry, you know that doesn’t leave much.
Sanctus Real lead singer, Matt , shares the story behind the song. Check it out.
It’s a struggle to balance ministry and family. No matter how well you think you have things figured out, you will always think, “Am I giving this all that is needed?” I can spend hours fine tuning my calendar; working it out so that the appropriate time is given to students, administration, my wife, my kids, and myself, and at the end of the week still wish I had spent more time with one or the other.
I learned a very important rule from Andy Stanley, many years ago. Where are you willing to cheat? In the of greater scheme of things, I am a Follower first, husband second, father third. Beyond that it doesn’t matter. I dream big. I’m always looking for what’s coming next. I am always looking at life through ministry eyes. But the danger in always thinking ministry to students is that I forget about the ministry to my families. I am called to care for my wife and kids first. God is big enough to take care of the ministry that I can’t.
“So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I’m called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way
To lead them
Won’t You lead me?
To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can’t
Don’t want to leave them hungry for love,
Chasing things that I could give up
I’ll show them I’m willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone
Father, lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone” – Lead Me, Sanctus Real.
As you dream ministry for 2010-2011, take some time to think about your first ministry; your wife and family. There will always be a student in need of your time. There will always be an activity to plan. There will always be a book to read. There will always a parent to meet with. And there will always be an elder/deacon to deal with. But you only get the family God gives you and the time He allows before their gone.